How Do People Fall in Love?

So much for making a lifetime commitment based on how a guy looks in jeans. The 36 Questions hubbub is making me wonder how I could have been so shallow as if a single garment should have such predictive value. Worse is that jeans are so ubiquitous, something that grandfathers and toddlers both wear, heads of state and janitors. At least asking how he looked in a tux would have led to a factoring in of income and class. But the need to make my choice more complex and nuanced escaped me at the time. There were the jeans and this one question: are you available?

If you’ve missed it, the 36 Questions business is basically the theory that a heartfelt, sincere conversation between two people focusing on 36 scripted questions will result in their falling in love. This is different from a Match.com questionnaire that seeks to establish compatibility…